“I’ve personally experienced plenty of this,” Buggs tells me.
“While pretty much all women of colour are considered more sexual and exotic than white women, the ways in which this plays out varies.
“Except for black women.”“I’ve just never been attracted to Asian men,” she says. Unfortunately, the vast majority of singles I’ve worked with have clear racial preferences and biases when it comes to dating.
Now that I’m four years into professional matchmaking, I’ve seen clear patterns emerge when it comes to race and attraction. Women of every racial background seem to strongly prefer dating you.
Most services also encourage members to add photos or videos to their profile.
Once a profile has been created, members can view the profiles of other members of the service, using the visible profile information to decide whether or not to initiate contact.
Sexual narratives about Asian women suggest that they will not challenge a man’s masculinity the way that other women of colour might.
They are the hardest singles for me to match, because they tend to be excluded from the match searches of the majority of clients.
Men seemingly open to dating “anyone and everyone” eventually include a “no black women” addendum. The online dating world is also stacked against black women and Asian men.
Consider the male Asian characters in movies you’ve seen in the last several years. When was the last time you saw a North American film where a desirable Asian man played the romantic lead and didn’t know martial arts?
A similar story presents itself when we deconstruct black women in popular culture.