"I asked for, and got, a check 30 days after my husband left," she says.
"Too many men dodge their financial responsibilities, so waiting for that first alimony check is unwise. Newman says that a client of hers told her husband's boss about his affair with his secretary and ended up getting him fired.
"It amplified the concept of a broken home." She wishes she had made plans to see her mother or a friend—or taken a vacation—to take her mind off spending the holiday by herself.
To get things back on track, Doares suggests addressing issues as a family so everyone can talk about the changes together.
Also, inform your child's teacher of the new situation, but don't automatically put your kid in therapy.
Psychotherapist Pandora Mac Lean-Hoover, who's divorced, also suggests finding a therapist who knows firsthand how vulnerable you are.
"Therapists who haven't experienced divorce often create false hope," in regards to recovering quickly.