Raso notes, “If you lose your cool and say something to your spouse that can be perceived as threatening, even if you don’t mean it, the spouse has a right to get a restraining order and get you removed from the house.” Even repeatedly calling your ex could garner a restraining order, so be sure to keep your cool during the whole process.
It is likely that some victims of domestic violence experience physical assault only once and others experience it repeatedly over a period as short as 12 months. British research suggests that the highest risk period for further assault is within the first four weeks of the last assault. Offenders convicted of domestic violence account for about 25 percent of violent offenders in local jails and 7 percent of violent offenders in state prisons. Many of those convicted of domestic violence have a prior conviction history: more than 70 percent of offenders in jail for domestic violence have prior convictions for other crimes, not necessarily domestic violence. Although there is a popular conception that the risk of domestic violence increases when a couple separates, in fact, most assaults occur during a relationship rather than after it is over. However, still unknown is whether the severity (as opposed to the frequency) of violence increases once a battered woman leaves.If your soon-to-be-ex-wife is taking you to court, chances are you’ll be tempted to act on emotion and draw out the process for as long as possible, but focus more on the business aspect of the situation.With those basics in mind, here are the five seemingly harmless mistakes most men make during the ugly process.Victimization surveys indicate that lower-income women are, in fact, more frequently victims of domestic violence than wealthier women.Women with family incomes less than ,500 are five times more likely to be victims of violence by an intimate than women with family annual incomes between ,000 and ,000. Although the poorest women are the most victimized by domestic violence, one study also found that women receiving government income support payments through Aid for Families with Dependent Children (AFDC) were three times more likely to have experienced physical aggression by a current or former partner during the previous year than non-AFDC supported women. Overall, in the United States, blacks experience higher rates of victimization than other groups: black females experience intimate violence at a rate 35 percent higher than that of white females, and black males experience intimate violence at a rate about 62 percent higher than that of white males and about two and a half times the rate of men of other races. Other survey research, more inclusive of additional racial groups, finds that American Indian/Alaskan Native women experience significantly higher rates of physical abuse as well., † It is unclear how much of the differences in victimization rates by race is the result of willingness to reveal victimization to survey interviewers (Tjaden and Thoennes, 2000).A friend of yours might have had a bad divorce but not all divorces are created equal.